SmackyGirl

Its no secret that I love to travel and ever since I was little I have been on the move constantly around Norway and the world. Either with my family or on my own from when I was 10 years old, when my mum and dad let me go on my first flights on my own when I had to go to my dads every other weekend, who lived on the other side of Norway.. I can`t sit quiet for too long I get bored and restless of staying in one place for too long. I want to get out of the house and away from my computer and phone to explore the world and the people I share this planet with. But there is still so much of the world I have not got to see yet. I am missing most of the bigger continents like Asia, Australia and America which is on my top 3 list of places I one day would like to travel to and experience.. My last travel was to Nice in France this June and I enjoyed it very much. France was so beautiful and I loved the French people. I want to explore more of France in the future and also maybe one day visit Nice again.. My last travel was more of an business journey than just a pleasure holiday thou, but I love my job as a blogger and getting the chance to met and blog about unique people living and having different lifestyles and careers. I am really happy with helping the French studio I am with now by doing some advertisement after the magnificent time I spent with them this Summer. So at the moment I don`t see the need for advertising or meting any other studios. They have shown all the right qualities I appreciate in a porn studio to keep on wanting to advertising it.

But I have been thinking about where I want to travel next, just on a pure holiday for myself to relax and be thankful for still being here alive and breathing to still be able to travel the world. I have a few travel ideas and I want to start realizing one of them soon. Such as Jamaica..   But of course that costs a bit more than it does for me to travel within Europe so I still have some saving to do before I can get to some of these destinations. I am going on new journeys soon however and people in Norway/Oslo and England/Norwich should soon have a visit from the SmackyLady as Jay called me sometimes :p Loved people have a lot of names you know <3 That`s something we say here in Norway and it sounds better in my own language. Jay had a lot of lovely pet names on me and I on him too for that matter.. 

I have not been to England for 2 years. I was thinking of going down to put some flowers on Jays grave and have a chat with him by his grave. Then I was hoping there was going to be a Pam`s House around the time when I get down there. Because Jay would of wanted me to have fun every time I come to visit England not just sit and cry by his grave. He would of wanted me to go raving and he would of wanted to come too. I am looking forward to see my good old England again. It was my home for many years staying there and living with Jay. I miss it but I have had so much to do here at home with my health and all that, that I haven`t had the chance to come back sooner. 

I have also promised someone else in the industry which I have known for a very long time too, to come to California one day. So its time to start thinking about going to America and the sunny state sometime soon. I am really excited to see California`s beautiful beaches, scene and nature.  I also have a very cool and talented DJ friend down there it would be very cool to do a live interview of him while I`m there. But I`m not going to put my feet in the sea thou I am terrified of sharks.. :p

There has been some people wondering what I do on my blog.. I know I am doing my own thing at least. No one that I found was doing online interviews of gay porn actors when I started. Now I see a lot of them and some of them are using the exact same questions as I do. I can name a few I know too well that are directly copying my interviews or the questions and putting it on their own blogs. But I` m just not going to bother. For me its about having fun and meting great people who have given much of themselves in my interviews. Which I have made for fans only and not for the industry to recruit guys to their own studios. Some people in the industry visit my blog more than I do I noticed. And even if guys I have interviewed have been exclusive to their studios, many have still been messaged by others about working for their studio. I don`t like it but I can`t stop it. But my intentions have always been to provide cools stuff for the fans to read. Not for other studios to have a recruit party on my blog. I have made something great with this blog and I am proud of that. But I think some people might see me as a fan girl of porn considering some of the content that is on this blog. Or some have heard it due to vicious gossip. Well I have always tried to be very honest about one thing.

I don`t consume or watch porn at all.. Not gay, not straight, not lesbian or any other form of porn either haha. The closest I get to watching porn is Fifty Shades of Grey. Jay gave me all the books actually <3 He kept on asking whats going on every time I made a funny noise reading the first book one summer at his.. He was like “Are they being naughty now?” and I was giggling like a little girl when saying “yes” … 

But that doesn`t stop me from being curious about the people who have this job and want to explore it.. Jay used to hate it when people called me that. Because I didn`t met him through porn, and he never saw me as anything but his wife, woman and best friend. I wasn`t even allowed to call him by his model name in private, because he said “you are my friend don`t you fucking dare ever call me that.” As many would like to think I knew him via porn at first, we didn`t start there. If people would ask me instead of believing rumors and others wish thinking that would of answered that question right away.

I remember Jay got so mad once at the two people who worked as producers for a porn site for calling me his fangirl along with many other things after threatening me and also deleted my first Facebook like page for my blog because I had been so stupid and trusted one of them as an admin on it. Jay wrote to the owners of that site an email as he was one of their biggest models. He was fucking furious and I had never seen him angry like that. Those really offended Jay that day he never forgave them or went back working for them. And I first knew what he did for me when I received an email later that same day from the owners of that company who was in the US. They were apologizing for their UK producers behavior against me saying they loved what I did on my blog, seeing all the traffic that came from SmackyGirl to their site. There was about 200-500 clicks a week to that site from SmackyGirl. I gave the affiliate account to Jay because I don`t want to earn money on SmackyGirl that way. But they were trilled and gave me a free membership and fired the other 2. But it was not only because of that thought, there was other problems that got them in mayor trouble. But that behavior was definitely part of that decision they made for firing them, and I still have that email I got from the owners of that company. It meant a lot to me for all the work I did to be heard because others in the industry started to pick up on what fast success SmackyGirl had with advertising and gave me a fair chance instead of bad mouthing me like that and hurting Jay at the same time. 

I am so glad I have had a friend such as Jay in my life. Specially in the very beginning because I would of never have known this world without him. When he created and gave me my blog I knew nothing about it before it was finished. He sent me the link to SmackyGirl and said “Hey this is for you.” But I didn`t have much to blog about back then that would attract traffic to it. And being a pink blogger like many of my girl friends here in Norway do, talking about make-up and fashion stuff wasn`t my thing even though I read blogs like that myself daily. So I starting using the one name I had to put in as a keyword on here. Which was my friend who happened to be working as model in porn and who also did big success on that back then. Oh and he still does I notice often.

Before twitter and all that came back in 2010 when we met, he was one of the first porn stars to actually already have a like page on Facebook. And at the most there was about 5000 likes on there and later when he made my blog and I started writing the thousands of searches on his name alone lead straight to my blog. Today when social media has come for full to stay it is very little compared to how many followers and fans the guys out there working in porn have now of course. But back in the early days when he started this, that was a very good number to make. .  Google has often since I started interviewing others in the same profession ranked me as number 1 on many searches of the model names I have tagged in my interview. And they still do on some actually even if more popular sites have stories or interviews about the same people as well.  All I did in the beginning was writing about what him and I did in our personal life outside work, and it was all just fun and about the normal daily life stuff I did with him like just hanging out, going on adventures, concerts, dinner dates and parties. The fans loved it and I lived well on Dakota fans let alone and I still could they are many still. And new fans keep coming still. Now they are talking to me thou I know its not the same but I am glad I can be there as an comfort to them at least. Many fans are asking me questions about his passing which I can`t give them, and I am sorry but I hope you understand why. I don`t know them and I can`t give out info like that to just anyone. 

The first 2000 original posts that was published on this blog has been deleted a very long time ago, so you who was not been with us from the beginning which many of Dakota Shine`s fans still are have never seen or will be able to read these posts again. What you have seen since is mostly interviews and posts for the industry and very little of the most personal posts me and Jay did the first 2 years of this blog and made success on. At most SmackyGirl has had over 80.000 montly visitors on this site and for a long period of time it was steady on over 50.000 visitors stopping by SmackyGirl minimum a month

But I knew my stats was going to drop drastically when I decided to remove the anime/yaoi I had on here before. Jay was the one who decided to put it on there, and I let him because he meant it would give me a lot of traffic and it really did. Hence that large number of monthly users. 70% of that was people just coming to watch Yaoi on SmackyGirl. So when I took it away it was a decision I took after he passed, because some of those things were very dodgy Japanese anime porn at its worst. And that is definitely not my thing at all.. But I took the chance and took it away and I haven`t regretted it since, even if my stats came crashing to the floor. At a time for 3 to 6 years maybe SmackyGirl was one of the biggest Yaoi streaming sites in the world. But there are still many people stopping by here now and my stats are going up actually everyday. So I keep on going… Keep on paddling..  Its not really about how much or little traffic I have to me. I just want to write. I don`t really care if the counter says 1 or 1000 a day.. 

But its not really a good idea to call me something I am not because then fans expect me to know stuff that only real fans would know such as about who is in the all different shoots and what they do in it. I wouldn`t know that because I haven`t watch it. I have been given a few free memberships to porn sites over time as thanks from the studios for my advertisement. But to be honest I have not used them to watch porn. Only to go pick the guys and some pictures I needed for my interviews with the models.  The pictures I pick are usually the none x-rated ones. I like showing who the people behind the porn are in face and person. . There are better blogs out there to write about the porn than me that people should visit instead. I work with these guys very closely sometimes we have already established a friendship and I would go crazy watching them in porn because some of it it is too hard core for me. Even if I am totally okey with knowing that people have a kinky side they want to explore, I would not like seeing someone whip or do hardcore bondage on a guy I know and have personal connection with. I would be stressed, terrified and ask Jay why are they hurting my gays like that :O haha but I know everyone has different likes and tastes. And what is too hardcore for me is someone else pleasure. So I stay away from watching such things, and leave it to those who enjoy it instead and let you fantastic fans of the guys read my interviews and learn new things about their favorite models instead. 

I think I was blushing a few times in France that gave it away and someone asked me if this was the most porn I have watched in my life when we were finished filming, and I said yes haha except for every time my friend “willingly forced” me to watch one of his new ones for confirmation if it was good or bad. haha But truth is I was sitting with a pillow in front of my eyes the whole time not watching at all, being embarrassed that I had to see my friend and his boyfriend naked doing porn. It is just not normal to see people I have known through thick and thin in the daily life in that situation. I rather not please it is just weird to me..  

So I hope that answered some of the question and people stop believing in cruel gossip from sour old grapes. Specially since my best friend is dead and all its not nice to say that. He would be very upset if he saw someone say that about his Mrs Gummi Bear I was his world he loved me a lot enough to propose to me.. We were best friends through thick and thin. He had my back in everything. But my dear readers I am here and I am a very friendly person most of the time anyway, if someone hasn`t made a reason for me not to be. People can just email me and ask me anything they might wonder about anytime. My email is always been SmackyGirl@live.no

Except for having the flu at the moment I am feeling good considering the after effects I got since I had chemo. But its not going to stop me from doing what I love and that is travelling the world and meting people. And I can`t wait to start on my next journey home to Norwich for a little get away weekend. And then I guess its time to make a decision which destination I am going to explore first. I am split between US and Jamaica.. But I got plenty of time to think and decide before my saving pig is full enough of money to go to one of the two places just yet.. 

x Mz Smacky x

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